Wednesday, August 28, 2013


People pleeeaaaasssseee, can someone tell me why it must rain every darn time in Akwa Ibom?! I don’t get it. I told a colleague recently that I am going to look for where i can buy Wellies (aka rain boots) and get 2, one for the office and one to be kept in my house. I recently saw some cute ones in Lagos so i have set my sights on those type of wellies and not the yellow type. Nothing but cute for this diva.

It has been raining since morning. It was a slight drizzle in the morning but now it is a full, 'don’t want to stop' affair. Thank God I had no plan to go out today; it would have been disappointing not to be able to carry out my plans. So right now I am safely tucked in my house, on my bed and about to make myself a hot choco and eat it with some cookies (gleefully rubbing my palms in anticipation). I am just sorry for people that are stuck in this rain. I hate being beaten by the rain. It totally sucks!

But the good thing about Akwa Ibom is that they don’t really have the problem of blocked drainage here (unlike Lagos) so shortly after the rain stops, almost all the water everywhere (or mostly everywhere) is cleared.

Okay! It is official! I am beginning to wonder what is going on with this strike. It is getting a bit too long. I would have thought that by now, something would have been said. However all I am hearing is that the unions and Federal Government are talking! Someone should talk something reasonable (and by the someone, I mean Federal Government!).

I don’t know what is going in this country anymore. Health workers are on strike, Universities Lecturers have been on strike for almost 3 months, it is really pathetic. May God help Nigeria! We have so many leaders that are not fit to be leaders.

I have to go. My hot cup of choco is calling me ……lol. Enjoy the rest of your day.

Love ya,
Petite Diva.

P.S: It has been brought to my notice that the strike has been called off. Seems they knew i was about putting this up. And also i wrote this post in the afternoon but was unable to upload it due to bad internet connection probably as a result of the rain. The rain has finally stopped. Good night guys, i have to go to work tomorrow.....#mixedfeelings

Tuesday, August 27, 2013


Hey guys, guess what? We are on STRIKE! At least every other person apart from the doctors, and only in federal hospitals. The reason or reasons for the strike has to do with grade level (which equals more pay) and some positions that some other professionals are entitled to. I am not really a union or a politically person but I am interested in people fighting for the right thing especially now so that when I am eligible for the grade level, I won’t have any problem. So I have been at home (or should I say that I have not gone to work) since Thursday and I have been enjoying myself.

I have gone to the cinemas, watched 2 movies: The Smurfs 2 and White house down and i totally enjoyed myself. I went for a wedding on Saturday, a child dedication on Sunday and went to visit a friend on Monday. But I think that is all 'the going out' for now. I really need to read. The last time I really read was in SA and I couldn’t jot things down cos my fingers were too stiff from the cold. So till Friday night when I probably would go to the cinemas (if they are showing any movie worth my time), I plan on eating, sleeping and reading, and also blogging…..*Bigsmile.

So I went to a friend’s house yesterday and she invited me to eat but I just couldn’t. I have found out that I am really reluctant to eat other people’s food. I am not exactly sure why but maybe it has to do with my upbringing or with the fact that I was used to eating food with less salt (and I am now trying to go back to that way) and I noticed that a lot of people eat a lot of salt. So at the end of the day I don’t really enjoy the food. I really don’t know the reason but I think I need to reduce the habit just a little bit before people take it the wrong way.

So by October, my last relaxer would have been 18months ago. I am struggling to make sure I don’t relax my hair till then but I don’t know if I would make it till my 24th month. I might just relax, nope, texlax it in December. Since my hair is fine and scanty in the relaxed form, I am planning on texlaxing it. It should make it fuller and still retain a looser texture of my coils.I plan on not buying any relaxer until at least November but who knows what can happen.

Since I am on strike, I think I should try to upload a post at least everyday but I know i can be so lazy at times. Anyway, I would try my possible best. Oh, thank you guys for making me feel good about myself concerning me and my ex-friend. Apparently the problem is not with me.

You all know that I want to get a camera soon, and I want to get it online. So that means I would be trying out Shippyme company again. They have been sending me mails that they are now better and all the previous problems have been sorted out. I won’t believe it till I try it out myself. Then I would give my honest review. Hopefully the service this time would be better. But wait a min, I think they are still owing me! Nobody has said anything about that o. I would call them when I try them again.

That is all for now guys. I need to go and eat and sleep then read. Enjoy the rest of your day guys.

Love ya,
Petite Diva Smurf…lol

Thursday, August 22, 2013


A senior colleague asked a question today, 'what is your definition of a friend?' He said someone once defined friends as ‘inconvenience and longerthroat’ (longerthroat kinda of means not being contented, I think). He said you would be ready to go out of your way for a friend even if it is not convenient for you and if you are truly friends with someone, you can easily take something that belongs to a friend and know that the friend won’t get too angry. The explanation made a whole lot of sense.

And the explanation also made me realize that my doctor ‘friend’ that I talked about sometimes was not really a friend. But it didn’t matter anymore cos for the first time in my life, I told someone that our friendship was over and I darn well meant it and mean it. A few days ago, I told him our friendship was over and deleted him from my BBM contacts. Since he is a doctor where I work I needed to keep his phone contacts but I don’t plan on ever calling except it involves a patient in the hospital.

I have vowed even before I ended the friendship that I would never ever ask him for any professional/medical advice for myself. I had too many other doctor friends. I know it might seem harsh but I made the decision after an incident in which he reacted like an enemy instead of a friend. I was writhing in pain a few months ago, I had severe abdominal pain and I sent a message to him. However he didn’t reply after a long time and I was in serious pain, actually considered getting a tricycle to take me to the emergency department, but I couldn't even walk and i didn't want to be a news topic in the hospital. I remembered i had another doctor friend so i sent a message to him who told me what to take which luckily for me I had in the house.If i didn't have the drug in sufficient quantity at home, i would have landed in the A and E department of the hospital.

After the storm was over, I sent my other friend a message that I had contacted another doctor and I was now okay. You wouldn’t believe what he said next! He said and I quote ‘next time contact the other doctor and don’t contact me’. I was shocked! I couldn’t believe that it was my supposedly good friend that said such. It really hurt because I don’t think I have ever been that cruel to a person especially when it involves their health. I explained everything that happened and even after my explanation he didn't even apologize. I was really hurt however I decided to forgive him.

However after what happened a few days ago it became clear that while I thought i was good friend to him, he didn’t really think of me as a friend. Maybe i was not a good friend to him. I thought about a lot of things that he had done and they started to make sense. I was hurt and betrayed and wanted to feel sad but thinking about everything made me realize that 'you win some and you lose some'. I lost someone that I thought was a good friend but at the end of the day, it was never really a true friendship.

So we haven’t seen since I plainly told him that it was over but I saw him in a church that he doesn’t attend (still don’t know why he came there), he didn’t see me. When I saw that he was turning I ran to another exit, I was not and I am not interested in talking to him. A female friend said I should have not run and should give him another chance. But seeing as he is not my boyfriend and I don’t trust him anymore, i would take a pass on that second chance. I rather not talk to him than pretend and also I would have to constantly watch what I say which would not only be really awkward but stressful for me. 

So I think and strongly believe that the best thing for us is to part ways, that way we can’t fight all the time like we used to and he would have a calmer life (he insinuated that I was too much trouble). He would have such a much better life without my trouble. I wish him and his family all the best. however I don’t think I would miss him. Because some months ago I knew something had changed and I had started working on giving him a whole lot of his space.

Anyway, that is all for now folks. I don’t think this post is inspiring but the lesson I learnt from this is trust no one completely but love and forgive completely. I forgive him but I can’t trust him again and I think ending our friendship would prevent me from hurting him. Do you think I am right guys? Do you think I made the right decision? Would really love to hear what you think….

Petite Diva…

P.S: I desperately need a camera #wailing. I have some make up (non-paid) jobs coming soon and i need the camera to take pictures of my work. I wish i could just go out there and get it but i can't. Oh well, another reason to save....

Sunday, August 18, 2013


I am really sorry that I have been unable to write this sooner but I have resumed at my work place and things have been crazy. My boss is on leave and I had to arrange the books and the unit. Then I have been trying to arrange my house cos when I was going on my leave, I kinda of scattered my place. Why I was able to write this now is because I was on call today.

Anyway, here is my post. So I earlier said that I planned my trip to south Africa just to have fun, shop and be adventurous. I didn’t know that I was going to come back completely different. 
Motivation to rock my fro
HAIRINSPIRATION: You all know that I was getting a little bit tired of my natural journey cos I don’t seem to be enjoying rocking my hair. However when I went for the SAB world of beer tour, the lady leading us was a natural. She had her hair in a fro and adorned with a scarf. And I was like whoa, she is rocking her fro fiercely. I got the motivation to rock my fro because of that. I have been rocking my fro since yesterday. I washed my hair yesterday and I didn’t hide it under a wig. I also noticed that a lot of the South African ladies love deadlocks and their deadlocks were cute and different from what I was used to. Read in a magazine that people were even cutting unsuspecting people’s locks off.......weird.

SPIRITUAL: I attended my friend’s church, Rivers Church. It is church like I was not used to. The pastors were so simple. I wouldn’t have known the senior pastor if we didn’t watch a clip where his name was written. The choir and pastors wore simple clothes, nothing fancy. The service was a bit confusing at first but when it was over, I was not happy that I had only one Sunday to spend in SA, i enjoyed myself. Pastor Oliver (the senior pastor) preached on “the pursuit of happiness”. He stated that happiness only comes from God. That working towards your purpose in life and not working after pleasure can make you happy. He stated that no one including a spouse can make you happy. He also talked about women trying to be like men and at the end of the day they are not happy. I don’t really know if I fully understood his point there. But the sermon made me think, I need to know what my purpose in this life. It also encouraged me to let go and let God lead the way. Anytime things come up and I start to get depressed, I remember the sermon and have the motivating spirit I need to continue. By the way, can I say I loved the church building and the time spent during service? And I also loved the sincerity of the senior pastor. Can you imagine, he actually said he used smoke Indian hemp? So no one should think he is above mistakes.

EMOTIONAL: When I went to Apartheid museum, I saw all the hardship that South Africans went through and I saw the people that fought for what they have now. I don’t really like history and at a point things were getting a little too much for me, there was so much information that it was beginning to just get too much. However at some point in the visit, I saw that the South Africans (some of them were even white) had courage. They were willing to die for what they believed in. they fought not for themselves but for their children. Even the high school students fought for a proper educational system and they got killed but they were ready to fight for the right thing. I asked myself if I could be like them. Am I capable of fighting for what I believed in? Learning about their history has made me see that I need to stand for what I believe is the right thing and not be swayed by the opinion of the world.

RELATIONSHIP ISSUES: Also as I went to places like Sandton City mall, Hyde Park mall, Lion Park, Monte Casino and the likes, I was inspired by the people. I realized I deserved better. I realized that I was not inferior to anybody. In most of my relationship, or I should rather say in all, I have made the mistake of feeling like I was not worthy of the person I was dating so I ended up appearing clingy and they ended up hurting me. But while I was there I saw that I am an amazing person. I decided I wanted to go to South Africa and God made it happen despite the initial discouraging remarks I heard from family and friends. Realizing that I was able to achieve my dream made me feel that I am not that bad and I needed to conduct myself in such way. I am better and I deserve better! So I am determined to focus on better and not make do with people that think that I am not worth it.

FINANCIALLY:  The fact that I was able to save and afford the trip and shop in SA showed me the importance of saving and having a purpose for saving.  Knowing that I am a shopaholic and can spend my money like crazy has made saving hard. But because I was determined to go to SA, I was able to focus and save for the trip. I want to go on other trips and for those trips I need money. And I have also some personal changes that I saw need to be carried out. I am now inspired to save because I now have a purpose or rather purposes so hopefully I would be more than strict in saving. Thankfully I think I have enough clothes and shoes (which are some of my weaknesses), oils and hair products for my hair (got some on my trip *coversmyeyes) to last me about 6-8 months. All I need is to walk away from temptations and remember my purposes.

CAREER WISE: Watching the people there carry out their jobs with so much finesse and enthusiasm has inspired me to be better at my job. I know that with all that I have on my plate right now that things might not be easy, however I am determined to try my best. And I also went to some major pharmacies there which has given me ideas on how I would like my pharmacy to be. I am now working towards my goal of having a pharmacy that would be exactly what I dream off and much more.

I know it is a lengthy post but I feel someone out there reading this might be inspired to be better. I really hope you enjoyed it. I have to go now. Hope I would be able to write soon.

Love ya,
Petite Diva….
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