LOVE CAN GROW AND LOVE CAN DIE

Hey guys, I stole this story from a friend on BBM. I thought it was a pretty good story to share with you guys. I don’t know if the story is real but I do know that the situation is real in some marriages/relationships. I hope you enjoy the story and grab the moral of the story. I would write my thoughts after the story.

Enjoy:

My name is Dayo. I am a typical Nigerian Guy and I cherish my Fridays a lot. I get to hang out with the sickiest guys every Friday night and secondly, it is another escape from my nagging and boring wife. I get confused sometimes whether she’s my mother or my wife. Don’t get it twisted, I love her to pieces. It is just complicated; like I wish we had never gotten married. Marriage has turned her into something that doesn’t amuse me. I wish she was still the adventurous, charming, high spirited lady I dated for 5 years.

A lot of people say it is unethical for married guys to be found in a club, but I wish everyone won’t be quick to judge and understand that people look for fun to run away from their problems. They just want to breathe like me. I forgot to mention that I work in Guaranty Trust Bank in Lekki. I love my job and my job loves me. Maybe it is because I’m the senior banking officer (lol).

This particular Friday morning, a lady breezed into my office and my heart raced faster because I had not sighted anything this beautiful in a long while. She wasn’t the typical slender Barbie, in fact she was chubby but her smile, cuteness and …..i was tripped. ‘Hi. Good morning. Your ATM card swallowed my card!’ she said and then laughed, quite unlike a typical customer that would ram you. I just tried to form boss (lol)…”Good morning, you know what? I’d personally make sure they get it out for you, but not today. Can you wait till Monday?” I smiled and thought GTB sha!

‘Ok, can I drop my phone number so you can call me up or just send a text when it is ready so that I don’t come here twice? Please? My name is Nancy’ She blinked her eyes in a funny way. “Sure” I said and smiled. We exchanged numbers. What a lucky Friday, I thought.

So it was 10pm and I headed to the club, as usual my friends were waiting for me. My wife had called a couple of times, I just ignored it. She knows I am never at home on Friday nights. ‘Look at you!’ I heard someone say. I raised my head and it was the ATM lady-Nancy. “Wow, look at you too!” I was surprised to see her again but I was happy that I didn’t have to wait till Monday to see her again. “Happy Friday!” She screamed because of the noise. “Wanna dance?” I didn’t even have the chance to answer; she had already pulled me to the dance floor. I really suck at dancing but she helped me. She was a great dancer! I had fun! At some point, we decided to go to a private area and we talked about everything, ranging from work, business to personal life. I tried to hide my ring as much as possible. I certainly didn’t want this to end now.

“You are a really wonderful lady. You are so interesting. Any guy would want to be with you all day” I said. “I wasn’t always like this but I have learned the hard way that life is just too short to be sad”, she sang. Then her phone rang….”Hey Baby! Yeah, I’m at the private lounge. I’d like you to meet someone….alright boo” she talked excitedly as usual. I was in shock until this tall handsome man walks up to her and kisses her.

“You are late! Meet Dayo; I met him this morning. He is helping me with your ATM card I told you that got trapped in the machine and Dayo, this is my B to the O O”, she laughed. “Meet my husband Kolade, we only come here to dance every other Friday; away from work, stress and kids”. “Wow! A pleasure” I managed to shake him. Then she stood now excitedly holding her husband’s arms.

“Why don’t we invite Dayo for Mimi’s 16th birthday tomorrow?” Her husband said. They have kids too? How long have they been married and they look like a couple just dating! “Silly me, please come for my second daughter’s 16th birthday tomorrow. It would be an honor”. She brought out an I.V from her purse. I began to feel ashamed of myself …..this was another guy like me, getting it right with one woman.

I collected the I.V and promised to be there.”See you tomorrow! Have you had something to eat, Kolade?” She talked and dragged her husband along. They left and I kept staring at the thin air like I had seen a ghost. They come just to dance together every fortnight Friday? Why didn’t I ever think of that?!

Temi loves to dance, she also likes long walks, and she loves jazz music. There’s this vivid picture I have of me putting her hand on my chest when we danced at a jazz club on our first year anniversary. I found myself typing all the things I knew Temi loved to do on my Ipad and I realized that I had denied her of all. I had made her the old woman that she acts like. What on earth was I doing here?! I didn’t even tell my friends goodbye, I walked out of the club into my Jaguar.

Temi’s call came through and I picked at the first ring. “Temi?” My heart raced. “I know you are not coming home….”she said. “I am, stay up so we can gist. Been a while” I decided to do everything on that list and to even add many more for the rest of my lifetime with her. “Are you alright?”She asked. She was shocked, I supposed. “And I would like us to go for a birthday party tomorrow. I want you to meet this amazing couple” I told her. “You sound different, Dayo” “Maybe I’m different” I said. “Don’t say it! Don’t say it!! When you come home we would gist very well" she laughed. She laughed! In just that laughter that I hadn’t heard in a while, she sounded like the lady I married six years ago.

Dear readers, I wrote this natural piece just to remind us that creating memorable moments with our partner matters. Do you know that little things are the sweetest things? Just creating time to gist and laugh with your partner, having a day with your partner , having a day in the week that’s exclusively for both of you-No friends or kids allowed.

Ladies, when was the last time you told your guy that he is so darn hot? Guys! When last did you tell your lady that she is the sweetest thing in the world? When last have you whispered ‘Thank you’? When last have been quick to say ‘I’m sorry’? let’s learn to do all these before it is too late.


There! I am through with writing it. Whew!! I didn’t know it was such a long write. I am too tired to write anymore. I would write my thoughts on it, what I learnt, what I feel and point out a little bit of what might have been off in the story. However it is a good read and I hope you guys agree.

Check out this page tomorrow and see what the Petite Diva has to say about it. Now it is time to sleep!

Luv ya guys,
Petite Diva.