I was asked that question recently and couldn’t come up with an answer because I had never been in a situation where I had to cheat.
I am a one track kind of girl when it comes to relationship. I am the kind of girl who doesn’t say the words ‘I love you’ easily because I grew up with the mentality that the words were meant to be said when you actually meant it. I have noticed that a lot of people say it now just to get what they want from the opposite sex. That is so wrong! I am also the type of gal that when she is in love forgets about her dreams and take over the dreams of the person she is in love with.
I love fiercely so it is kind of impossible for me to date two guys, you would know something is wrong. I just can’t love two guys at the same time. I would love one and like one. They would both know that something is wrong. My guilt would ruin my time with the one I love and irritation would set in with the one I like. Strange uhn? But I am just like that so I think I can’t be the cheating type.
Those were my reasons for not ever being in the 'two timing game' but lately I have had to rethink some of my ideals. Life is not just white and black, it can be grey too. There was a scenario that I was given which got me thinking.
A single lady is suddenly been courted by two guys in different ways. Before I continue, let me give just a tiny info on the two guys. Guy A cannot be completely said to b a friend but a colleague that she just knew and Guy B is a guy she knew in high school and lost contact with until recently so technically he is a friend (i think).
Guy A is sweet, nice and has a good guy courting approach while Guy B has a certain roughness, a good heart deep down and an arrogant if not a little bit cocky courting approach. Guy B also happens to have been one of her high school crush. The guys live in different states so there is no chance of them running into each other.
I was asked what I would do. And for the first time, I was stuck. The sanest answer would be to go with the guy that appeared good but a naughty part of me wondered what it would be like to date the cocky guy. As they say 'good girls love bad boys'. I guess I thought that way because l have recently seen that people can appear differently and act differently. The good guy could actually end up being worse than the cocky guy.
So the only logical answer that I could give was ‘date the two of them’. I was shocked to think that way but that seems like the only answer I could give. If the girl dates the good guy and he turns out to be nasty, she has lost out. And if she chooses the cocky guy, he might probably take her for granted. Point was that I thought she should date them lightly and the one she loves she sticks to and dumps the other guy.
However can I try what I just said? I sincerely hope not. I can’t confidently say that I wouldn’t be greatly tempted to go out with the two of them. Well, Thank God it was fictional scenario and i was just to give my honest opinion! What do you guys think? That was my own answer. What is the best way to handle this? I really would love to know if there is a better way around this.
I still don’t know why women cheat but I now know that things are not always white or black. There are a lot of other colours involved.
Gotta run folks, I am practically dozing off on my computer.
P.S: Please use a computer to view my blog and remember to carry out your assignment. Thanks a lot……